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Sandrina Rodrigues

Parenting can be wonderful, but it can also be stressful.&nbsp;

Burnout symptoms include depression, irritability, lack of sleep, anxiety, crying spells, lack of clear thoughts (mental clutter), job burnout (for a working parent), emotional distancing, parental ineffectiveness, and escape ideation.

Avoiding parent burnout requires real effort, according to the <a href="https://childmind.org/article/preventing-parent-burnout/">Child Mind Institute</a>. Experts note it includes consistent self-care, and establishing a strong support network for yourself.

Below are some tips to prevent parental burnout:

As a parent, it is not always possible to take time for yourself. However, taking 5-10 minutes for yourself per day can make a difference in your day-to-day life.

<b>Guide: </b><a href="https://longisland.news12.com/guide-ways-to-help-you-identify-and-deal-with-work-burnout">Ways to help you identify and deal with work burnout</a>

Ask another parent for help with the kids, or even a family member once in a while.

Talk with people you trust about your concerns and how you are feeling. Sharing how you’re feeling can facilitate support.&nbsp;

<a href="https://www.apa.org/monitor/2021/10/cover-parental-burnout">Here are some more tips</a> on how to overcome parental burnout.&nbsp;

Parenting can be wonderful, but it can also be stressful. 

Ways to prevent parental burnout

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And speaking of ice is expected to get colder out there. Meteorologist Michelle Powers joins us now and we are on storm watch. Michelle, what can you tell us? Well, we have a lot more rain before the morning comes and roads are going to be wet. It's going to be sloppy as we start the day. But temperatures are above freezing, we're going to watch them fall throughout the day and heading into Tuesday, any standing water that is left over that could become icy. So plan ahead. Now there could be some minor slowdowns on the roads and as for snow don't get your hopes up. There's a chance as you go up in elevation and throughout parts of the Poconos, that's where really most of this will fall. So the colder air rushes in temperatures are really going to drop as we head into Tuesday morning, we're near freezing. The next couple of mornings will be much colder daytime, highs in the forties and no rain in sight until next weekend.

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Welcome back to News 12 of the Bronx for local matters. I'm Phil Tate. We are on Storm March tonight. We have Storm March team, meteorologist Ho oa Hope. I mean, this second wave of wet weather is really kicking up, but tell us how is this going to really be impacting our morning commute? Yeah, you know, you know, the rain is going to continue into the morning commute. So this is just something that we have to deal with and just prepare for and we're not just dealing with the rain. We're also dealing with a strong two damaging winds, 40 to 50 MPH and that can cause some power outages across portions of our area. Crashing. Temperatures will be in the sixties at midnight, crashing to the forties by Monday morning. And then we have some travel troubles, especially for your morning commute, standing water and any wind damage can reduce visibility and also just cause some hazardous conditions on area roadways. So let's have it out on your future cast overnight. We're still dealing with the periods heavy rain and some strong gusts 3545 MPH and even through four or five o'clock in the morning, temperatures will be in the mid forties and we're dealing with that steady rainfall, maybe even a few isolated downpours to at least 7 a.m. Eight AM. The rain is lighter and then we're seeing some clearing skies by the afternoon, 1212 30. But temperatures will be in the mid forties. The winds will be persistent throughout the day. That is gonna feel like temperatures to be in the mid to upper 30. So that's a real shock in the system, especially coming off of a 60 degree day. So Monday night into your Tuesday morning, it is expected to feel like the twenties because of those winds. So back to our winds, the winds will be out of the northwest. So now it's bringing in that cooler pocket of air 5 a.m. 2325 MPH and we're seeing it in that ballpark for the majority of the day, even reaching near 30 at times and that is going to take us into your two morning. So this is what you need to prepare for for Tuesday morning. Again, temperatures will be in the twenties to start feeling like the mid to upper thirties during the afternoon. But on the plus side, at least it's dry. We're not dealing with any wet weather for the next several days. So that's something that we can finally look forward to. So the storm watch continues for the first half of your morning commute, drying out by the afternoon, temperatures will be in the mid forties feeling like the thirties even colder by Tuesday. Let's just get through this together.

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And another update for our storm watch across lower Hudson Valley. So this is what we got going on for us until we get into our Monday early afternoon. Around 1 p.m. We are looking for a flood watch to be impacting for us throughout the rest of tonight and again until Monday afternoon for all of the lower Hudson Valley. So a breakdown of what we are expecting from the rest of tonight and into our Monday morning, especially from our threats level. Well, we have the flood watch because we are expecting about 1 to 2 inches of rain to be likely for us once the event is all set and done. So street flooding is possible in even hyper localized areas as well. So just be mindful that it's going to be a bit of a mess when trying to travel going into our Monday morning. Then once we're done with the flooding, we are also looking at some windy conditions right behind it. So not necessarily done with the flooding, but the other threat from the storm system is going to be the fact that we could be seeing winds between 30 to 40 MPH. So isolated power outages could be possible because of downed power lines or even trees due to the over saturated ground and the strong wind and himself. So getting into the rest of our rain chances from overnight into our Monday morning, from overnight into Monday morning, we are looking for rain to continue for us. Now, will it be heavy at the time? Not all the time. We are looking for a bit more weaker rainfall overnight, moderate to light rain, especially by the time we get into our Monday morning early, but we do have periods of seeing some of that heavy rain stick around throughout that uh part as well. But take a look at our wind gusts. This is what we're gonna be expecting from overnight into our Monday morning. It's not gonna be overly strong but between 20 to near 25 MPH, especially as we get closer towards our Monday late morning hours. But in the afternoon, we are expecting for those winds to pick up just a bit more as the system starts to exit. And with it, we're looking at colder temperatures as well. So don't only just prepare for the wet weather but be prepared for Monday morning to be a cold one. Temperatures into the upper thirties and near the lower forties throughout across the lower Hudson Valley as we start off on Monday morning. And with this cold air roll its way in on the upper levels, we could see a couple of snow flakes or wintry mixes for the northern parts of the lower Hudson Valley. So how much rain we could be expecting? Well for the rest of the event overnight into our Monday morning, potentially another inch of rainfall. But as long as we're not seeing a whole lot of heavy rain in a short period of time, our flood risk will be on the lower end. Again, It will just be mainly hyper local, but it's still something to pay attention to and be mindful of going into our Monday. Now, taking a look at our winds again, early Monday morning, not as strong, but once we get into our afternoon, we are looking between 20 to 30 MPH, gusting winds until we get into our Monday nights, we're still gonna be a bit breezy, but it's not gonna be nearly as strong as we are gonna be expecting overnight for us. Now, here's a look at our Monday in itself again. We're looking at gusty and rain in the morning sun once we get into our afternoon, but it will be a cold one as temperatures will be near the middle forties. Heading into the rest of the week. We're gonna see those lower forties stick around for us but it will be dry.

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A quick update on our storm issues across Long Island. So this is what's happening as of right now. We're still dealing with that system that's been bringing an abundance of rain and now it is the winds that is going to be the double whammy or even the second issue for us as we continue throughout the rest of our Sunday nights into our Monday morning. Now, a lot of that heavy rainfall has been moving quickly, but now it's impacting much more of Suffolk County over towards Port Jefferson and over towards Islip and our Twin Forks areas as well. We are still potentially gonna be looking at more rounds of heavy rainfall to be impacting Nassau County in the western end of Suffolk County as we get into the rest of tonight. So again, just make sure that you, if you are gonna be out for tonight or even heading into tomorrow morning, you're planning ahead because things are gonna get a bit not only wet but still gonna be a bit messy as we start off our Monday morning. So make sure you plan ahead and leave a bit early if you need to. Now for western side of Suffolk County and for Nassau County, we do have a flooded are in effect until we get into just a few minutes past midnight for us, for tonight. But if we continue to see the heavy rainfall, we could see that extended as a possibility. So it's one thing where we are going to be monitoring here at the storm watch news, 12 weather team. But until then, here's also what we're looking at as of right now. So wind speeds are really starting to pick up, especially along the South shore, near 40 MPH wind gusts as of right now. And then the rain again, we're gonna be looking at another potential round of heavy rainfall for the next several hours going into our early Monday morning, not until about close to sunrise when we start to see that rain really lose its intensity and just become light rainfall going into our Monday morning. So once we're heading out, it's still gonna be a bit of the wet side for us, but still be mindful of wet roads, flooded areas as well because even for earlier, for today, as if you were going to be traveling on the lie, it's still gonna be a bit of a mess because we're not gonna be looking at this rain to really end for us until we toward late Monday morning and early afternoon. But right behind it, we're still gonna be dealing with some windy conditions. So overnight, we could be seeing again wind speeds, clocking from 42 near 60 MPH for some areas, mainly along the South shore, the northern shore areas. We are gonna be seeing the winds not being as strong, but still could be a bit of an issue, especially as we get into our Monday afternoon where we are anticipating a once again windy day for our Monday. So taking a look at how much rain we could be seeing from the rest of this event. Nassau County. Not as much unless it's closer towards the Suffolk County area, uh, near Hicksville, which would be close to about two inches. But overall, we could still see three inches of rainfall for some areas as well. A quick look at our 10 day forecast. Once we're done with our storm watch for Monday morning, we're looking at smooth sailing for the next couple of days.

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And we're taking another look at the forecast. Morning, temperatures are going to be warm, but temps will fall throughout the day and there's still rain out there for that morning commute. So there could be a couple of issues on the roads plan accordingly. Travel could be a little disrupted by that rain. Now, there will be some snow falling mainly north, but that's going to be very brief and it doesn't look like we'll see much of an accumulation, but either way it's going to be damp out for the morning commute, the afternoon will be and colder. So make sure you have something waterproof for the morning, grab a rain jacket, don't wear the good shoes tomorrow, it's going to be very wet out, but later it up underneath because temperatures will be colder. S ra are still looking pretty messy across the area. And like I mentioned in terms of snow, there's not going to be very much but just parts of northern Litchfield County and as you go up in elevation, so this upcoming week as a whole is going to be a lot drier than what we're seeing right now. And those temperatures are in the forties.

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3 ways to prevent parental burnout

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Today, we're talking about the challenges of parenting and really how to handle all that stress parenting, it's rewarding, but it also can be very hard. A recent survey from the american of american parents rather by Pew Research Center reveals that parents well they've got a lot of worries on their minds and their moms in particular carrying much of this mental burden. Moms are also more likely than dads to say being a parent is stressful and retiring all or most of the time. So here to help us navigate our parental decisions. We have dr christian Bernard, she's an associate professor of psychology at Stony brook University, co founder of Power of Two. It's a new york city based nonprofit that supports parents and she's an expert on parent child relationships, early childhood development and mental health. And Dr Wilfried Ferguson is a licensed psychologist at stony brook Medicine, a clinical assistant professor and the director of the child and adolescent behavioral health ambulatory services. So do remember we want to hear from you from the next half hour, we answer your questions so you can submit them right now under the live stream of this show on our facebook pages. Alright, so Dr. Ferguson, I'm gonna start with you. I wanna I wanna talk about this report by researchers with Ohio state and it looked at, you know, parents and 66% of working parents met the criteria for parental burnout. Now this isn't a clinical term, but really it speaks to the fact that a lot of people are exhausted. Yeah, absolutely. So and probably because most people are juggling multiple roles and so when we find ourselves pulled in many directions it can feel like burnout. Um And then I can imagine it comes with signs like fatigue, a lot of worry and sometimes feeling helpless or hopeless and uncertainty of what to do. So it's it's definitely something that's real and most people do experience it and we want to know that it's it's a normal feeling. Well I think that's the thing is to say, okay, I'm not alone in feeling this way but dr bernard if I'm identifying, you know, a feeling of burnout, what do I do about it? Yeah, that's an important question. How do you take care of yourself? How do you take care of your kids when you're overwhelmed and stressed and juggling so much as dr Parkinson said, um there's multiple levels to think about for for care. Um And and oftentimes we're thinking about the parents so what can the parent do themselves? And we can think about different strategies for coping like relaxation. Um Getting support from other people were actually going to mental health care and getting getting additional services. But I think we should also be thinking about what can we do as a society, How can we alleviate some of this burden, What kind of practices and programs and policies can actually support parents because we know there's a lot of stress on parents these days. Absolutely, I do want to just put up some information on the screen um for everyone at home, just to really kind of quantify for lack of a better word exactly what we're talking about here. We're talking about things like fatigue, irritability, changes in your sleep, in your appetite and mood. Even some people, you know, reporting they have actual aches and and physical pains. Um so dr Ferguson if people are saying yes, I'm having trouble sleeping, I want to go cry in the driveway in my car and I can't handle what's happening. What are some of the I'm gonna say tools in their toolkit that they can use to be able to, you know, come back from this. Yeah, absolutely. So I think um paying attention to our physical bodies is very important, right? So things like diet, exercise and sleep is super important and really setting up a structure that works for you in the home to be able to do those things effectively. Um and then of course emotionally having safe spaces for us to vent our emotions tapping into additional supports. If you're fortunate enough to have a partner in your parenting endeavors, that's great. And then of course it's leaning on extended family mm You know, dr Bernard, when I took a look at some of the data, a lot of it pointed um to mom's saying they're really burned out, 68% of working moms specifically saying they're burned out compared to the number being 42%. Um for dads, why do we why do we think that that women are feeling this so much more? Yeah, I think there's a lot of potential reasons for that. Um some of it might just be kind of history and tradition of the division of roles based on gender. Um or mom's feeling more responsible in some ways. Um Of course we're seeing a lot of changes in that, and fathers taking a very active role on some parents balancing that really equally in the household, but I think traditionally, like mom's still carry a lot of the burden sometimes, and of course that depends on specific families, but that might be a piece of it, and dr Ferguson, when you take a look at the Pew Research poll, which is a different data point, it showed that parents are really worried about their own kids. Mental health. Absolutely. And so it's interesting because a lot of our we know that our kids take their cues from parents, right? So parents are stressed out, they're worried that they may be passing that on. Um at the same time our young people are very resilient and I think they're often times we don't give them enough credit. So I think, you know, there's a balance of modeling what we want to see in our Children and also helping our Children identify their resiliency factors early on, and I wonder to dr bernard about, you know, people really um I'm gonna say having their identity being a parent, I'm a dad, I'm a mom and what that really means. Yeah, a lot of people carry that really strongly and that is a big part of who they, how they identify um and a big part of their life and and most of us want to do the best that we can and haven't always had the best models growing up or don't have the current support that we need. Um and so when you care so much about doing something, well, it can be especially stressful when you feel like you're struggling dr Ferguson. I wonder too, about the judgment aspect of this and I'm gonna, you know, just kind of put social media in there, but, you know, all of a sudden there's this comparison and, you know, you're looking at somebody who, you know, made this beautiful thing that they found on Pinterest and you're kind of sending in something that doesn't look the same and you know how we're kind of judged for the for, you know what we're doing. Absolutely. So I think there's a nice balance that we can strike here for acceptance and change, which is one of the tenants of DBT um and I liken it to like nascar races, you have high performing efficient race cars going around the track, but they take breaks, you know, and they give themselves grace and they change their tires and then they give themselves fuels that they're performing better. So we want to think of the same thing for parents? Like it's okay if you miss a step, it's okay if you take a rest. I I find personally um that the moms that I can be really honest with and you know vulnerable with and share kind of some of the things that are like, you know, the mom fails really improves the relationship I have with other moms and instead of trying to be, you know perfect on the outside being real with them, I think it's important to think about being a good enough parent. No one's perfect and maybe we're striving to be but thinking about doing good enough so that your child feel safe and secure um and happy and of course there's going to be trips along the way but just getting back up and repairing those when they happen. I feel like you know there's these different labels that they put on parents right? And I think we've all heard about that helicopter parent but it was interesting to me that this week someone said to me, I don't have time to be a helicopter parent as if there was something they would even want to aspire to be. But that idea that they're, you know, hovering over their child then there's the koala who keeps their child close and then the lighthouse parent guiding the way I'm just wondering dr Ferguson are some of these, you know, um ideas of parenting, like is this creating a negative narrative. So I think it may be and I think a lot of what we're seeing is family values coming out in those different types of parenting styles and so if you can ground your parenting style and your family values and your personality and that of your child or Children, you know, it's it's probably gonna have good outcomes regardless of whatever everyone else says about it. Yeah, because dr Bernard I heard about the Snowplow parent and and they removed everything all the obstacles out of the child's way and I just thought well you know my my best growth as a human has been when I stumbled and and failed, so it is okay to let your kids fail. Absolutely, it's all been a balance balancing act and what works for one child might not work for another child and what works one day, might not work the next day. Um and so really figuring out like what works for you, what works for your family, what what's consistent with your family values, as dr Ferguson said um is the most important and I guess to as as a component for a parent to think about your success tied to their success or failure. Dr Ferguson. Yeah, absolutely, I think you know there is a separation there, you know the kids have, again they have their resilience but they also have a mind of their own and they're trying to navigate the world in their own space as well. And it's a very different world than when most parents were around and coming up. So I think, you know, guiding them modeling what we want to see. Those are great places to start and again, if they do stumble, that's an opportunity for you to identify resiliency factor. Absolutely, Alright, our conversation continues on parenting straight ahead.

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